GavinTheAlmighty
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I really don't think Rob would put up much of a fight for custody, except maybe out of spite.
In fairness, Rob Ford's entire raison d'être is spite.
As someone who grew up in small town ontario, this is totally the mindset I'd often see. You've gotta fight for your kids, no matter what (but completely ignore any semblance of rational parenting in the meantime)!
I've learned to expect that if something would fly in my hometown, the Ford's are for it, 100%, zing!
It's not just a small-town thing.
One of my wife's relatives, who grew up mostly in Toronto and then moved out to Oakville, was married and had a kid, but is an absurdly chronic alcoholic. His list of alcohol-based transgressions is numerous but most pertinently, he had several impaired driving charges, to the point that he spent two weeks in prison (weekends only) at Mimico. His wife left him after exhausting her patience and after the separation, he has bounced around from room to room, staying with people until he outstays his welcome and moves on.
He was a journeyman but drinks so much that his nerves are shot and he has vicious shakes whenever he's not drinking. No company will hire him so he does odd jobs for cash, his "friends" are all very unsavory types like biker gang folks and low-level mob thugs, and he rents a room in a rooming house full of questionable characters. His family has done everything to help him and he's just thrown it all away. Yet despite his absolute train-wreck of a life, he still talks non-stop about how he's getting legal aid to get better visitation rights with his daughter. His daughter is the only thing he can point to in his life that he hasn't ruined (to be clear, his daughter is well-adjusted despite him, not because of him), so he shoots for better visitation rights because he thinks that's the most important thing in his life.
In reality, he's not a bad person - certainly not a malicious bone in his body - but he is about as unfit a parent as one can be given the circumstances. And yet he keeps talking about "fighting for his daughter", when it's not even clear he'll have a roof over his head in a month's time, let alone a job (which he doesn't have) or a car (which he doesn't, and probably shouldn't have). He has zero instincts for self-preservation, zero pride, but he's gotta see his daughter more because he thinks it's the one thing he can point to and say "I'm not a complete fuck-up" (never mind the fact that he doesn't have good visitation rights precisely because he's a complete fuck-up).
Kids are and should be the most important thing in a parent's life, so when all else fails, you fight for them because that's what a good parent would do (not to suggest that people in that situation are good parents; just that they want to emulate what they believe people think is good parenting).
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